Many things have changed since we made a "media revolution" around the theme of sexuality in the 70s through the television program "Sincerely." (A Costa Rica TV show produced by Javier). The subject is no longer taboo; the information is now accessible to everyone; the new generations have great need to experience new things; women no longer need to define themselves as lesbians to enjoy each other; sex is now less important for both genders and the understanding of the rainbow of the genre has already reached national legislation. However, despite all this, something has not changed: women still do not fully enjoy their sexuality. Would you like to know why?
Writing this article I risk to sound rude and macho.
However, due to my 30 years of work as a sexologist, I am one of the few people in this country (Costa Rica) with the right to say it without being accused of being a liar or exaggerated. In addition, next to this bad news I have another very good one: now if the conditions are in place to make this start to change, because women are already demanding their rights and because we already have a medium sufficiently positioned and with the necessary value to Take on that responsibility The responsibility to help us take another step in the conscious evolution of this beautiful land, in which today animal sexuality, prehuman sexuality and human sexuality coexist. Animal sexuality is characterized as an instinctive response, controlled by inherited patterns and in which there is no orgasm of the female or control of the sexual response by the male. Both copulate "by necessity" when they have the possibility of doing so due to hormonal conditions outside the voluntary control and do so as quickly as possible, to avoid the attack of a predator or a male competing for the female.
Since about four million years ago, our male ancestors began to experience pleasurable sensations when copulating. However, it was not until the appearance of Homo erectus that we began to be aware of sexual pleasure and it took another two million years for prehuman sexuality to appear little by little.
The "prehuman sexuality" of which I speak is characterized as a response freer from the control of the instincts, but shares with animal sexuality the lack of orgasm and enjoyment of the woman. Likewise, he shares the relative speed of sexual intercourse and the lack of control of sexual response on the part of both. Although the coitus of the human being is one of the most extensive in nature (three and a half minutes on average), it remains excessively short in terms of true female sexual enjoyment.
In this state of "prehuman" sexuality there are about 70% of people.
Human sexuality, lived for the remaining 30%, is characterized as a free response to the control of the instincts and includes both the male's ejaculatory control and the full enjoyment of the woman's orgasm.
It may seem very strange and contradictory that most humans live a "prehuman" sexuality, but for the expert eye it really is not. What this means is that "human" sexuality is really just coming, and that the "human being" has not finished separating from the animal. But in our prehuman sexuality there is something even more interesting and at the same time more significant for the moment in which we live.
Do not be angry when reading what I will explain before finishing the article! Especially if you are a woman! and please do not quote it out of context, because it would seem the opposite of what I mean. Rather relax and enjoy, because it will read something that can not yet be found on the internet and that can change your perspective and behavior forever.The reason why most women do not have orgasm during intercourse is because the female orgasm is not something "natural". With this I mean that the female coital orgasm does not belong to the nature of female sexuality, as if coitus does. It is rather about what in anthropology we call a "cultural trait". Therefore, although intercourse is something "natural" and does not require learning to take place, enjoying orgasm during it is something learned and must be passed on from generation to generation through education or "socialization".
From the biological point of view, the vagina evolved as a perfect organ for penetration and pregnancy, but not for sexual enjoyment. Different thing happened with the penis. For this reason, male coital orgasm is universal, while only 30% of women enjoy it.
This could be different, but it is not, because our culture has refused to welcome the sexual enjoyment of women. Put in a non-offensive way, we are stuck in evolution because the dominant culture does not want them to enjoy sexuality. But he does not do it because he does not "love" them, or because he wants an evil for them. In fact, most of us men believe that we are good lovers and that women really enjoy our sexual game. Meanwhile, from 60% to 80% of women (according to different studies), overact and fake orgasm.
Unfortunately, the reason why our culture does not allow the female orgasm to become universal through education is unknown to most people. It is a pity, because knowing it helps to modify sexual attitudes and clarify values...."